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Best Black Friday Deals on Sex Toys, Vibrators, and Lubes

Best Black Friday Deals on Sex Toys, Vibrators, and Lubes

Masturbation is one of the best and healthiest ways to care for yourself, and with stress running high this holiday season, who couldn’t use a little extra relaxation? Investment in self-care is essential, and treating your partner is a great way to spread the love around. This year, several sex tech companies are joining the Black Friday and Cyber Monday fray with deals that make this investment a little more accessible than usual.

Our picks for the best Black Friday sex toy deals were researched and tested by our Gear team for our Best Sex Toys for Every Body guide.

Updated November 28: We’ve tweaked prices and added a deal from Crave.

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We test products year-round and handpicked these deals. Products marked (Sold Out) are sold out or no longer discounted as of publishing. We’ll update this guide throughout Black Friday weekend.

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Sex Toy Deals

Dame Pom with charging cable plugged in
Photograph: Dame

This little vibrator is one of our all-time faves. It’s been a top pick in our Sex Tech Guide since day one, in part because it’s adorable, but mostly because it’s a powerful, comfy-to-use, good-for-all-genitals vibrator and is approachable both in its low price and its simple, straightforward design. We even wrote a whole review about it.

Suction toys are a game-changer for people with vulvas. The toys use pulses of air to simulate the sucking sensation of skillful oral sex, stimulating the small erogenous areas like the clitoris or glans of a neo or natal penis. It’s kind of amazing, and they’re usually pretty expensive so finding a good one under $100 can be tough. It’s best for gentle to moderate intensity suction, and it’s not quite as powerful as other suction toys in our experience, but it’s still a good pick.

Everyone should use lube. No matter your genitals, gender identity, sexuality, or kinks, if you’re spending time with genitals you should have lube on hand. It’ll make everything so much better. For real. Water-based lubes are your best bet for everyday use. They’re water-soluble, so they won’t stain your sheets or clothes, and they’re usually made of body-safe aloe. Great for solo or partnered use! This is one of our favorites.

Dame Arc GSpot Vibe.

Dame Arc G-Spot Vibe.

Photograph: Dame

Dame’s sex toys all sport a similar sleek and approachable design, and you can see that here in the Arc vibrator. Gently curved with a soft bulbous end, it’s designed to provide rumbly, diffuse stimulation to the G-spot (but with a careful partner you could use it for the P-spot as well). It might be a bit big for some people, so make sure you take a look at the dimensions and compare it to an internal toy you already have and use.

Crave’s Vesper necklace is an adorable little bullet vibrator disguised as a pendant. It’s gorgeous and well-made, but it doesn’t quite pass as just a pendant if you look too close. Definitely more discreet than any of the other toys on this list though, perfect for travel and surprisingly powerful given its size.  

Sex tech maker Maude is offering a blanket 20 percent off on all orders over $75 from Friday, November 26 through Sunday, November 28. Maude makes a couple of our favorite toys that we’ve featured on our best sex tech roundup, but it also stocks a number of other goodies we’ve tested and highly recommend. The Shine water-based lube, for instance, is my personal favorite lube, and there are also a number of intimate but not overtly sexy items as well like bath salts, massage oil—even a fragrance-free hand sanitizer spray that works great for cleaning your toys.

One of the original suction toys, the Womanizer Premium has been around a while. The name is unfortunately very gendered, but if that doesn’t bother you, it’s a solid pick for powerful suction. If the name is a sticking point, I’d recommend the Dame Aer instead.

two sex toys bent in different shapes

MysteryVibe Poco and Crescendo.

Photograph: MysteryVibe

The Poco is an adorable little vibrator with two powerful motors and a flexible body. It’s easy to bend into just the right position to hit your G-spot, or for external use in interesting positions. It’s small, discreet, and pairs with the MysteryVibe app so you can set up your own vibration patterns or give someone else control of it.

The Crescendo is the bigger sibling of the Poco. It features a similar but more flexible body and has a whopping six internal motors. Those motors can all be adjusted with the included app, giving you very granular control over your vibration intensity and rhythm. Mostly I ended up using the built-in vibration patterns because there are quite a few, and they’re all pretty good. Those motors give the Crescendo a very unique vibration profile too, it doesn’t just feel like it’s one powerful motor vibrating the whole toy but rather several smaller ones vibrating throughout the toy. This is one of our favorites and for good reason. It’s fully waterproof, so it’s a great pick for bath time.

The We-Vibe Touch is a modern take on the classic bullet vibrator. It’s soft, squishy, and has a contoured body that makes it easier to hold and maneuver. The tip is shaped to fit over just about any erogenous zone. It’s also waterproof and surprisingly quiet.

This one is another suction or air-pulse stimulator designed to simulate the sucking sensation of oral sex. The Melt is a small, discreet, and cute little toy. It’s contoured and fits well in your hand no matter the angle you’re using it from, and the open end is large enough to encircle the clitoris without touching it directly—a great choice if you or your partner are particularly sensitive. It also supports We-Vibe’s app, so you can control it remotely for some long-distance partner play.

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Fun Factory Laya II

Photograph: Fun Factory

This is a vibrator designed specifically for those of you who like rumbly, diffuse stimulation while lying on top of a vibrator. The Laya II is contoured and designed for this orientation, so it won’t poke you anywhere sensitive the way a standard vibrator might if you lie on top of it. It’s also on our best-of list.

We haven’t tried it ourselves yet, but this looks like a fun little kit for couples. It’s a boxed set of sex toys that includes a vibrator specifically designed for the penis and another vibrator designed to go around the penis but also stimulate a clitoris or neo penis. It also includes a few spicy bedroom games, a massage candle, and a cute little hair scrunchie.

This little toy is fun to use all on its own or as an accompaniment to any harness or strap. It fits right in the O-ring, and it’s great for anyone who isn’t looking for size. Small and approachable, great for all kinds of internal play.

Pulsators are another relatively new kind of toy. Shaped like traditional vibrators, they actually pulsate back and forth to simulate thrusting. It’s a new experience for many, but if you’re a fan, it’s hard to go back to standard internal vibrators. This one has a flared head to mimic the shape of a penis and features medium-to-high intensity levels.


More WIRED Black Friday and Cyber Monday Coverage

Retailer Sale Pages and Coupons

Want to browse the Black Friday and Cyber Monday 2021 sales yourself? Here are a few places offering deals. Be sure to check out our many buying guides and gift guides for additional ideas.

  • Amazon Sale
  • Target Sale, Coupons
  • Walmart Sale, Coupons
  • Bed, Bath, and Beyond Sale, Coupons
  • Best Buy Sale, Coupons
  • QVC Sale, Coupons
  • Kohl’s, Coupons
  • Moosejaw Sale, Coupons
  • Adorama Sale, Coupons
  • B&H Sale
  • Moment Sale
  • Wayfair Sale
  • Newegg Sale
Curb Your Food Tech Enthusiasm

Curb Your Food Tech Enthusiasm

There are two problems with this approach. First, the promises of technologies meant to reduce emissions from agriculture often far exceed what they can actually deliver. For instance, as Matthew Hayek and I wrote in WIRED earlier this year, widely publicized claims that feeding cows algae feed additives could cut their emissions by 80 percent actually work out to be closer to 10 percent when you take into account when and under what conditions you can change a cow’s diet. Biodigesters, meanwhile, are very expensive and only address the 10 or so percent of agricultural methane emissions that come from manure. And whether either of these can be massively scaled is an open question. With these realities in mind, the modest 18 percent decrease in emissions from currently available technology outlined by the Breakthrough Institute’s report looks dubious. But even if its more ambitious goal of developing new technology that reduces beef’s methane by 48 percent were to work, the resulting emissions would still be higher than the currently worst-emitting pork and chicken, and well over twice as much as plant-based meats and four times as much as tofu. The clean cow, in other words, is a lame duck.

The second issue with this techno-optimistic approach is that even if these technological fixes are as effective as promised, they will perpetuate a food production system that will continue to be harmful to animals, workers, and the planet. There are scores of other impacts of beef production, including overgrazing of land, deforestation, harmful runoff and odors, animal welfare issues, and the treatment of workers in slaughterhouses. What good is investing in technologies to reduce emissions if their sources are industries that should be phased out rather than saved? Indeed, an exclusive focus on emissions reductions in food systems can lead to potentially far worse outcomes, like replacing high-emitting beef with lower-emitting chicken. Chicken production emits relatively little, but it does so at the cost of cramming animals into factory farms, where they suffer horribly, are more prone to disease outbreaks, and can be pumped full of antibiotics, contributing to the global crisis of antibiotic resistance.

Then there’s the technology-driven “solution” of alternative proteins such as plant-based and cellular meat. On the one hand, these products actually aim to create a more sustainable way of producing meat, both lowering emissions and removing many of the other harms of conventional meat production, including factory farms and slaughterhouses. Investing in the development of this technology might help usher in a far more ethical food system, one better for animals, consumers, and the planet. What the clean cow is to clean coal, clean meat is to renewables like solar.

But alternative protein still operates within the confines of existing, highly problematic systems. To realize its full potential in creating a better food system, we need to look beyond its advantages over conventional meat. The technology itself does little to address other major structural and ethical issues within the food system, including corporate concentration and the treatment of workers. As alternative protein companies break into the mainstream, many are being bought up by large incumbent food companies, including those they are ostensibly trying to disrupt. Most recently, the Brazilian cattle behemoth JBS invested $100 million in a Spanish cellular agriculture startup. Given JBS’ abysmal environmental record, this is hardly good news unless the company actively reduces its meat production to focus on alternative proteins.

41 Best Black Friday Deals on Phones, Tablets, and Smartwatches

41 Best Black Friday Deals on Phones, Tablets, and Smartwatches

Samsung Galaxy Flip3

Samsung Galaxy Z Flip3.

Photograph: Samsung

Amazon, Samsung ($900), Target ($200 Gift Card)

Samsung’s Galaxy Z Flip3 (7/10, WIRED Recommends) is the first foldable phone we’re comfortable recommending—especially for under $1,000. On the outside, the third-generation Flip is compact enough to slip into even the smallest of pockets and comes in fun, stylish colors. It has all the high-end features you’d expect too, like a 120-Hz screen refresh rate, 5G support, an IPX8 water-resistance rating, and speedy performance. The battery is sadly so-so. This deal includes a set of Samsung’s newest Galaxy Buds2 earbuds (9/10, WIRED Recommends).

Nokia, B&H ($521)

The Nokia XR20 (7/10, WIRED Recommends) is our favorite rugged phone. Our reviewer dropped it three times onto the pavement and its glass screen did not get scuffed up. The tough polymer composite back adds to its durability, the phone’s grippy texture keeps it in your paws, and there’s a spot to attach a wrist strap. You also get wireless charging, NFC for contactless payments, a headphone jack, IP68 water resistance, and three years of OS upgrades (with four years of security updates).

oneplus 9 pro screen front and back

OnePlus 9 Pro

Photograph: OnePlus

OnePlus, Amazon

The OnePlus 9 Pro (9/10, WIRED Recommends) received an honorable mention on our roundup of Best Android Phones. It’s a good phone with a heavily improved camera system (for photo and video), fast performance, a bright display, and solid battery life, but it’s also the most expensive phone OnePlus has ever offered. This week’s sale price makes it a much better deal. If you want to save even more, the phone’s younger sibling, the OnePlus 9, is $599 ($130 off).

Best Buy (Out of Stock), Target (Out of Stock)

We thought the Pixel 6 (9/10, WIRED Recommends) was already a great, affordable flagship phone, but this deal makes it even more enticing. Unfortunately, stock is extremely low. There’s a chance it’s available in your Zip code, but it might be a good idea to check back later to see if the deal comes back. This is Google’s first phone with its own custom Tensor processor, which gives it the power to take on advanced machine learning tasks on device. It’s powerful, has a colorful OLED display, more than a day of battery life, support for wireless charging, and 5G connectivity. Its impressive camera system also makes it our favorite Android camera phone that rivals the iPhone 13 Pro.

Accessory Deals

iPhone case

Totallee cases.

Photograph: Totallee

Totallee (Use BFCM2021 at Checkout), Amazon (Use BFCM2021 at Checkout)

Totallee cases are good options if you absolutely despise slapping a case on your phone, but still want some protection from minor scratches. We’ve tested and liked the brand’s cases, but the company is also offering half off on the rest of its products including screen protectors, wireless charging pads, and ring grips. 

Target, Amazon, Verizon

Our product reviewer (and one of our resident Gear Team artists) Jess Grey calls the combination of an iPad Pro with a second-generation Apple Pencil her favorite set of art tools. Yes, even counting traditional, non-electronic artists’ tools. Compared to the first-generation Pencil, the second-generation has support for double-tap gestures, and a flat edge for magnetically attaching to the iPad’s spine to charge.

Amazon, Twelve South

An arm mount like this one lets you clear space on a busy tabletop by mounting a tablet almost anywhere on your desk, such as off the side edge. It comes with a stand, though, if you’d rather use that. The height and angle of the tablet screen are adjustable, and the mounting plate easily detaches, so if you feel like taking your tablet to the couch, you won’t have to bust out any tools to separate it from the arm.

Why Is It So Hard to Believe In Other People’s Pain?

Why Is It So Hard to Believe In Other People’s Pain?

Hostile suspicion of others, encompassing everything from the position of their mask to their stance on mandates, has marked this wretched pandemic from the start. Now, in perhaps the unkindest cut, suspicion is aimed at people with long Covid—the symptoms that may afflict as many as a third of those who survive a first hit of the virus. One theory is that Covid infection riles up the body’s defenses and can leave the immune system in a frenzy, causing shortness of breath, extreme fatigue, and brain fog. In The Invisible Kingdom, her forthcoming book about chronic illness, Meghan O’Rourke reports that doctors often reject these symptoms as meaningless. When medical tests for these patients come up negative, “Western medicine wants to say, ‘You’re fine,’ ” says Dayna McCarthy, a physician focused on long Covid.

This is not surprising. Skepticism about chronic conditions, including post-polio syndrome and fibromyalgia, is exceedingly common—and it nearly always alienates patients, deepens their suffering, and impedes treatment. Until researchers can find the biomarkers that might certify long Covid as a “real” disease, the best clinicians can do is listen to testimony and treat symptoms. But the project of addressing long Covid might also be served by a more rigorous epistemology of pain—that is, a theory of how we come to believe or doubt the suffering of other people.

In her 1985 book The Body in Pain: The Making and Unmaking of the World, Elaine Scarry makes a profound assertion: “To have great pain is to have certainty; to hear about pain is to have doubt.” Because the claim illuminates both pain and knowledge, and because women rarely attach their names to philosophical assertions, I’d like, belatedly, to dub this elegant proposition “Scarry’s axiom.”

The axiom came to mind this fall for two reasons: I was trying to support a friend with long Covid, and I participated in a forum about how the media contends with racism. It was the second experience that illuminated the first and suggested Scarry’s axiom as a way to understand the acute distrust that now pervades our pluralistic country.

At the forum, a socialist and a libertarian each lodged complaints. The socialist charged that the media’s focus on racism leaves out a more significant battle—the never-ending class struggle. The libertarian argued that the media’s focus on race fails to understand the individual, with his or her pressing fear of death and aspirations to art, money, and transcendence. The libertarian then took shots at easily offended undergraduates who put emotion before reason and are forever getting “offended” and needing “safety,” which he said were postures incompatible with education.

This familiar debate ground on. As far as I can tell, no one on any side—and I disagreed with both the socialist and the libertarian—ever budged. But perhaps that’s because we kept missing a truth in front of our faces: that we were all dismissing as somehow less than real the pain of others while elevating our own, and that of our confreres, as hard fact.

25 Best Black Friday Deals on Phones, Tablets, and Smartwatches

25 Best Black Friday Deals on Phones, Tablets, and Smartwatches

Samsung Galaxy Flip3

Samsung Galaxy Z Flip3.

Photograph: Samsung

Amazon, Samsung ($900), Target ($200 Gift Card)

Samsung’s Galaxy Z Flip3 (7/10, WIRED Recommends) is the first foldable phone we’re comfortable recommending—especially for under $1,000. On the outside, the third-generation Flip is compact enough to slip into even the smallest of pockets and comes in fun, stylish colors. It has all the high-end features you’d expect too, like a 120-Hz refresh rate, 5G, an IPX8 water-resistance rating, and great performance. The battery is sadly so-so. This deal includes Samsung’s newest Galaxy Buds2 earbuds (9/10, WIRED Recommends).

Nokia, B&H ($517)

The Nokia XR20 (7/10, WIRED Recommends) is our favorite rugged phone. We dropped it three times onto the pavement and its glass screen did not get scuffed up. The tough polymer composite back helps, along with the grippy texture, and there’s a spot to attach a wrist strap. You also get wireless charging, NFC for contactless payments, a headphone jack, IP68 water resistance, and three years of OS upgrades (with four years of security updates). 

oneplus 9 pro screen front and back

OnePlus 9 Pro

Photograph: OnePlus

OnePlus, Amazon

The OnePlus 9 Pro (9/10, WIRED Recommends) received an honorable mention on our roundup of Best Android Phones. It’s a good phone with a heavily improved camera system (for photo and video), fast performance, a bright display, and solid battery life, but it’s also the most expensive phone OnePlus has ever offered. This price makes it a much better deal. If you want to save even more, the OnePlus 9 is $599 ($130 off).

Best Buy (Out of Stock), Target (Out of Stock)

We thought the Pixel 6 (9/10, WIRED Recommends) was already a great, affordable flagship phone, but this deal makes it even more enticing. Unfortunately, stock is extremely low. There’s a chance it’s available in your zip code, but it might be a good idea to check back later to see if the deal comes back. This is Google’s first phone with its own custom Tensor processor, which gives it the power to take on advanced machine learning tasks on device. It’s powerful, has a colorful OLED display, more than a day of battery life, wireless charging, and 5G. Its impressive camera system also makes it our favorite Android camera phone that rivals the iPhone 13 Pro. 

Accessory Deals

iPhone case

Totallee cases.

Photograph: Totallee

Totallee (Enter Code BFCM2021 at Checkout), Amazon (Enter Code BFCM2021 at Checkout)

Totallee is a good option if you absolutely despise slapping a case on your phone, but still want some protection from minor scratches. We’ve tested and liked its cases, but the company is also offering half off on the rest of its products including screen protectors, wireless charging pads, and ring grips. 

Nomad

If you recently purchased the iPhone 13 (or even the iPhone 12), a screen protector is a good idea to protect that display—even if Apple claims its Ceramic Shield glass is its strongest ever. Nomad’s tempered glass screen protector is on our list of Best iPhone 13 Cases and Accessories for ease of installation. You only get one out of the box though, which is pretty expensive at its full price, but this deal makes it tough to pass on. 

Nomad

Nomad’s Base Station Mini only charges at 7.5 watts and doesn’t have the strongest magnetic connection for MagSafe compatible iPhones, but you can rest assured the charger aligns perfectly with the iPhone’s charging coils. You won’t wake up to a phone that didn’t charge, which can happen with some wireless chargers. (It also works just fine with any Android phone that supports wireless charging.) As with all of Nomad’s products, the Base Station Mini has an elegant look and its small footprint makes it easy to find room for on your desk or nightstand. 

The Best Black Friday Deals for Your Kitchen

The Best Black Friday Deals for Your Kitchen

Vitamix 5200 blender

Vitamix 5200.

Photograph: Amazon

Amazon

There are blenders, and then there are Vitamix blenders. I was a skeptic, but like my fellow Gear reviewer Joe Ray, the Vitamix made me a blender person. A blender is, essentially, just a blade atop a motor. Everything else just gets in the way. The motor is why the Vitamix is so good. And yes, it’s expensive, but it’s worth it. This isn’t the best deal we’ve ever seen for it, but it’s the best we’ve seen this year.

Amazon

There’s nothing like homemade ice cream. We haven’t tested this 2-quart model, but I have used a smaller version, and it was fantastic. It’s especially fun if you have kids who can make up their own creative ice cream flavors.

The Tea Spot (CYBERTEA at checkout)

One of our favorite tea shops is having a site-wide sale. I’m especially fond of this tumbler, which serves as a brewer and keeps your tea hot for several hours. The deal also nets you three tea samples. You’ll also get free shipping (unless you’re in Alaska or Hawaii). 

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Global G-2.

Photograph: Amazon

Amazon

This is in our guide to the Best Chef’s Knives, and it was the most common knife in every restaurant I’ve worked in. It’s lightweight, holds its edge very well, and as the blade is thinner and softer than most European-style knives, it’s easier to sharpen. 

Williams-Sonoma, Ooni, Dick’s Sporting Goods

Want to throw a backyard pie party? Ooni’s pizza ovens are the best we’ve tried. They’re all on sale, so it’s worth browsing the site on your own, but we think the best deal is the Karu 12 multi-fuel oven. It gives you the flexibility to use wood or charcoal when the flavor is key, or switch to gas for those times you need a pie in a hurry.

Solo

Take the kitchen outdoors with Solo’s Ranger fire pit. We love the Solo Yukon, but it’s pretty big. This cheaper model offers the same well-contained (and smokeless) fire pit experience, just smaller. It’s perfect for roasting marshmallows after a nice barbecue.

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Fly by Jing

Photograph: Fly By Jing 

Fly by Jing

Fly by Jing’s Sichuan Chili Crisp is hard to describe. It’s spicy but not too spicy. It’s oily but not too oily. It’s smoky, it’s savory, and there are tiny, crunchy bits of chili that add an interesting texture. It goes well with noodles, soup, pizza, and eggs, but some online testimonials swear that the sauce even pairs well with peanut butter or ice cream. WIRED reviews editor Julian Chokkattu loves it.

Umami Mart

Cooking is all fun and games, but someone has to clean up too. Make their (or your) life easier with this ingenious scrubber from Japan. I have a few, because it’s great for cleaning other things too—muddy boots, the kitchen sink, even burnt caramel—and it usually doesn’t leave scratch marks (that said, always test in an inconspicuous place first).


More WIRED Black Friday Coverage

Retailer Sale Pages and Coupons

Want to browse the early Black Friday 2021 sales yourself? Here are a few places offering deals. Be sure to check out our many buying guides and gift guides for additional ideas.

  • Amazon Sale
  • Target Sale, Coupons
  • Walmart Sale, Coupons
  • Bed, Bath, and Beyond Sale, Coupons
  • REI Get Up Get Out Sale
  • Best Buy Sale, Coupons
  • QVC Sale, Coupons
  • Kohl’s, Coupons
  • Moosejaw Sale, Coupons
  • Adorama Sale, Coupons